Hmmm… the safety net of taking the time to process something.
As humans we tend to hide behind anything that might assist us in remaining under the thumb of our current circumstances; nurturing our victim-ness.
WHY?
Because frankly we don’t really want to take the effort involved for lasting change. We feel comfy-cozy just where we are; even if we say we hate being there. We might be claiming we are moving to new heights, when all we are really doing is just sitting in our same s@#* on a different day.
Prolonged spiritual healing, psychological processing, creating space and time boundaries, attending certain support groups that keep us trapped in victim-land, conversations with well-meaning friends, family and colleagues who are also committed to remaining stuck-These are all examples of the safety net arsenal of excuses used for not taking action; not moving forward in life.
And please note: I am not suggesting that some of these things are not beneficial and needed, but I am, instead, suggesting that there comes a point in time where these activities can become self-serving and non-productive.
We all have the life experience of intense challenges and pressures in our chaotic world today. We also tend to identify with our suffering situations and think we are special for having them. Yet many of these “problems” are self-inflicted by our own perception of them.
Each of us usually has a recurring issue in some form or another, that we are contemplating, processing, and healing from on any given day. These issues are given top billing in our minds to the point of obsessive thinking. We then like to pull out our excuse tool bags and use the contents to explain- away why we are currently unable to confront something in our lives, or alter it.
“It’s a process.”
This statement comes quickly and easily to the mind and lips because it relieves us of any need to actually- once and for all- evolve to our higher human potentials. These pat, overused phrases keep us wedged into an undesirable, self-indulgent, and rather lazy spot.
So the next time we hang our Under Processing signs up, we can ask ourselves- ”Do I truly require the time to process this, or am I just hiding behind the excuse to get out there, and do something constructive with this energy that keeps sending me into the “processing” construction zone?”
“Am I really engaging in life, or am I continually processing it?”
Okay sooo, before we move ahead…I might need some more time for…you know…processing.
